Remember being young and thinking that adults had the answers to everything? Remember thinking how great it would be to be old enough to do whatever you wanted? Well, the time has now arrived and you’ve learned three things…
- Adults do not have the answers to everything
- You still can’t do whatever you want
- There are some things you are totally unprepared for
We’re going to focus on the last point and take a look at five things nobody tells us about growing up.
College is Not Like the Movies
The movies romanticize college in a way that paints an unrealistic picture of endless partying and a little learning. Consisting of a hectic class schedule, homesickness, lots of stress about hitting deadlines and a rollercoaster of new experiences and emotions, the reality of going to college is so different. And that’s not even touching on the cost of getting a degree. Most people have to take out a student loan from a private lender to pay for college. Taking out private student loans are the ideal choice for many as they can be paid back overtime with low interest rates and reasonable repayment amounts. Why does no one talk about student loans in the movies?
Time Waits for No One
Life seems to move faster and faster as we grow older. Time waits for no one so don’t waste it worrying about things you have no control over. Spend time with the people you love and do the things you want to do and you will have minimal regrets.
It is OK to Have an Opinion
We are always told to be nice, to be quiet and to be respectful of other people but what about your opinion and your views? They matter too. If you think differently to the way your friends do about certain things, it’s ok to express your views and hold firm on your beliefs. If you want to spend your money to spoil your pet while your peers spend theirs on personal grooming services, so be it. The world would be a very boring place if we all thought the same thing and acted the same way. Of course, to go back to what we were told when we were younger, do it in a way that’s respectful of their views.
Rejection is Normal
You may have received a medal for taking part in a race in middle school but there is no medal for taking part in the real world. Whether it’s in work or your personal life, rejection will become the norm. It’s difficult to deal with at first but every failure and every rejection is a learning curve that will shape the person you’re meant to be. Think of life as a swinging door, as when it closes shut in your face, it always opens back up to something new and exciting.
Things Change all the Time
Just when life is going well, something changes, and everything is thrown into turmoil. You lose your job. Your relationship ends suddenly. Your best friend moves to a new state. The house you’re renting is going on the market and you’re given a few weeks to pack up and move. This is adulthood. Instead of fighting change, learn to embrace it and use it to your advantage.