Death is Hard, But Not If You’re Glad They Died

  • The kids weren't upset their mom died, and the obit they sent to the newspaper proved that.

When it comes to dying, we all react a little differently. Some of us cry while others throw ourselves into work and ignore our feelings.

One thing is true though and that’s that we all want to be remembered for the person we truly were. We all hope that our obituary tells our truth and has a way of bringing our lives to a completion.

For one Minnesota woman, dying was not your typical sad affair. At least not according to her kids.

They wrote her obit, and their message is clear: Good she’s dead.

Kathleen Dehmlow was 80 years old when she died on May 31st in Springfield. Her kids wrote and submitted an obituary to the local newspaper.

Her obit appeared in the Redwood Falls Gazette and began with the typical information including her date of birth, her marriage to Dennis Dehmlow in 1957, and the two children she had had, Gina and Jay.

From there, it’s anything but typical:

In 1962 she became pregnant by her husband’s brother Lyle Dehmlow and moved to California.

She abandoned her children, Gina and Jay who were then raised by her parents in Clements, Mr. and Mrs. Joseph Schunk.

The obit goes on to say that Dehmlow “will now face judgement” and “will not be missed but Gina and Jay, and they understand that this world is a better place without her.”

Of course, this day in age, this obit has gone viral. People are shocked. Some people wondered with the newspaper would have allowed the obituary to be printed.

The manager of the the paper says that the family paid for the obit to run. But not everyone in the family thinks the obit was fair.

Dwight Dehmlow said to the Minneapolis Star-Tribune that the facts included in the obit are true but that there is stuff that is missing.

Dwight Dehmlow wouldn’t say what his relationship was to the deceased, but did say this, “The sad thing about this is there is no rebuttal. There is more to it than this. It’s not simple.”

According to him, she lived in a nursing home for the last year of her life. Her sisters were there with her when she died.

“She made a mistake 60 years ago, but who hasn’t?” he had said. “Has she regretted it over the years? Yes.”

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